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Grace: Hope springs (eternal)

Wasn’t entirely sure what Husband’s agenda was when he casually asked me if I fancied going to see Hope Springs starring Meryl Streep and Tommy Lee Jones. “What’s it about” I asked. “Oh, a couple who have been married for ages and never have sex”.  Patently ignoring any innuendo, I said that I admired La Streep’s acting and went online to book two advance tickets for this weekend.

Like Meryl and Tommy, Husband and I have been married for a very, very long time. Happily married I’m glad to say. So I count myself (and him of course) as very lucky. But, like most of my friends who are in a long term relationship, sex – or passionate sex – is rarely on the menu these days. At the end of a long twelve hours at the office/commuting back to Sussex, faced with the choice of 1) steamy eroticism in the boudoir or 2) Eastenders on the flatscreen, guess which one wins in our house.

After so many years together, friendship and a good cuddle seem far more important than lust for many couples. Particularly once you’ve seen your erstwhile desirable partner with a streaming cold, farting on the loo, or picking his/her nose. Superseding sexy lingerie with firm control shapewear doesn’t seem to help either. Perhaps that’s why the ubiquitous Fifty Shades is so incredibly popular – despite the fact it is badly written: slow erotic sex must be what we women crave but do not have. With the exception of Trudi Styler of course (isn’t that right Sting?).  Sounds heavenly doesn’t it… taking each other to sensual paradise, instead of the quickie missionary most of us get treated to (not me of course, my Husband is Christian Grey personified!).

Anyway, here’s a quick trailer of Hope Springs. Will report back when I’ve seen the film. That’s if I’m not too exhausted by all the bedroom activity I think my Husband is secretly hoping the film will inspire us to get up to as soon as we get home from the cinema!

Yours, currently libido-free, Grace x

3 comments

  1. Such a relief to know I’m not the only one who’s not getting any! Don’t bother seeing the film tho, its a bit boring.

  2. Oh dear. I’ve already bought the tickets! Gx

  3. You are soooooo funny! Love the ‘long marriage, no sex bit’ hahahahahahah I’d rather have a long sleep xxxx

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Grace
Marriage to a younger man has been the making of me – it helps that he is my soul mate (a hackneyed phrase but no other words will do) and that we have a (99.9%) wonderful 19 year old son. Two gentle dogs – my beloved Jack Russell and my husband’s occasionally whiffy black Labrador - complete our little family. We live in rural West Sussex and, a decade after leaving London, I now find it hard to believe that I ever adored city life. I love the tranquillity of the countryside, the fresh air, the extra space, the fact that people stop to chat. I spend my time making lists, pretending to do Pilates, being glued to an ironing or chopping board in my kitchen – and trying to find something more interesting to do than all of those things.